Do you pick your friends or do they pick you?


Do you pick your friends or do you let them pick you? Some friends may not have your best interests at heart. Be deliberate about who you allow in your life. 


   “A friend should be one in whose understanding and virtue we can equally confide, and whose opinion we can value at once for its justness and its sincerity.”

― Robert Hall

As I learn about the subject of the Universal laws I am beginning to understand how our choices in life play a major part in what we create. I would tell my therapy clients how important it is to choose their friends wisely. There are consequences, for example, if you are with someone who robs a store even if you had no prior knowledge that robbery would take place. 

I have learned it goes way deeper than that. Our income for example will reflect the people we choose to socialise with. If we want to find a friend or a lover with certain characteristics we need to identify those characteristics and place ourselves around people with those characteristics. Although the movie "Pretty Woman" makes a great fairy tale the reality is we attract those in our circle that mirror where we are mentally and financially.  

Some people will allow their friends to choose them based on their desire to have someone around even if that someone does not represent where they want to be in life. To be a deliberate creator of our own lives we need to really think about the people we let in. Is this person someone I would want my children to be with? If the answer is no then it stands to reason that having them in your circle would cause problems for you as well.  

Do you feel a high level of negativity in your life? Take time to make a list of what you want your life to look like.  Do the people in your life reflect that vision? Is your family building you up or bringing you down? This is difficult but people who have different values from their family may find it helpful to limit contact with those who emit negativity or energy that they don't want in their lives.  

The bottom line is that we as individuals have the power to create the life we want by taking an active role picking the people that we spend our time with. Do you really want to leave that to chance?